My recollection of family holidays is not very pleasant. People who thought they had been 'done wrong' didn't talk to each other. And although the photos were nice, the underlying behavior and feelings were not.
Consequently, when I became an adult, I either left town or stayed in bed because I was sick.
It wasn't until much later that I realized I could enjoy the holidays, wherever and with whomever I was, by detaching myself from the drama and by taking the focus off of 'me'. Here's how I managed to enjoy the holidays.
1) I found a way to give. For several years I volunteered to serve dinner to homeless people at the Salvation Army.
2) I went to a Thrift Shop and bought near new warm jackets and donated them to one of our local charities.
3) I buy food and donate it to the food banks.
4) I discovered it was most important to give up the idea that Norman Rockwell holidays were more than a picture on a magazine cover.
Give up your expectations of how others should behave. Get out of your ego self by serving others. Commit to staying grateful, healthy and happy through the holidays and let others be. You'll enjoy the time much more. Happy thanksgiving, and make sure the turkey isn't sitting in your chair.