From a New York Times article dated July, 2011. Larry David begins by reminding us of Elizabeth Kubler Ross' work on Death and Dying. He explains that the four steps of recovery are: Anger, Denial, Bargaining and Depression. Once through the steps you come to Acceptance.
"My first stage: anger. There was a time I was always angry on the course." He'd drive fast, throw clubs, constantly berate himself. (I've heard fellow golfers use almost the same phrases.)
"You stink,": "You stink at everything," followed by all the things he did that didn't quite measure up. Then he'd walk off the course and vow never to play again, only to return the following week.
After several years in the anger phase, he got to Denial. "All I need are some lessons. Everyone else is better. I'm coordinated...Obviously I have it in me...Next year I'll go to Orlando and take lessons with leadbetter." He thought, "How can ou spend a week with Leadbetter and ot get better? It's impossible." But he did and he didn't.
The third stage was Bargaiining. "All I want to do is hit the ball. Give me a good swing and I'll do anything...even visit my parents 3 tiimes a year in Florida." the bargaining didn't work.
Then he got into Depression. He was never going to be good. What a waste of time. "Any idiot can do this" except Larry.
Finally he got into Acceptance. "I will never be good...It's something I'm not suited for. ..I'm good at other things." But he began realizing that he hit good shots on the driving range and he had good tempo - people on the course commented on his tempo. "Maybe it's psychological", (You think?) ...what if I blindfolded myself?...I'm going to try that one last thing, then accept defeat. but I have a very good feeling about this."
That's golf. You play a terrible round and sink a long putt on the last hole. That's what keeps you coming back. And that's what you should focus on, not only in golf but in life. Forget about what you can't or didn't do. Take pride in the good that you do and the good that happens to you: the lucky bounce, the beautiful greenery and sunshine on the course, the company of friends and used to be strangers.
Use Larry David's comments not as advise but as a cautionary tale. Look for the good and you'll find it! See you on the first tee!